You've Done Everything Right. So Why Do You Still Feel So Empty?
If you're exhausted from putting everyone else first and can't remember the last time you did something just for you, this book will show you the way back to yourself.
Does This Sound Like You?
You check all the boxes. Good job, nice home, loving family. On paper, everything looks perfect.
But inside? You're running on empty.
You say yes when you want to say no. You suppress your opinions to keep the peace. You've become so good at reading everyone else's needs that you've completely lost touch with your own.
And the worst part is, you feel guilty for even wanting more.
So you tell yourself: "I should be grateful. I really do have a good life. Nothing is wrong per say, I just feel tired, overwhelmed, and like no one gives back to me what I do for them."
Here's what you need to know: You're not ungrateful. You're not broken. You're just exhausted from a lifetime of people-pleasing—and it's time to understand why.
I wrote the book I needed…
For years, I thought being a "good girl" meant putting everyone else first.
I followed the rules. Said yes to everything. Made myself small to keep others comfortable. And slowly, without even realizing it, I lost myself completely.
Therapy helped me see the truth: I wasn't born this way. People-pleasing was something I learned. It was a strategy to survive, to be loved, to stay safe.
But it was killing me slowly.
I wrote Confessions of a People Pleaser because I want you to know: You are not alone. You are not broken. And there is a way out.
This book is everything I wish someone had told me when I was drowning in resentment, exhaustion, and the crushing weight of everyone else's expectations.
If you're ready to stop abandoning yourself and start living authentically—this book is for you.
What Readers Are Saying
“What a beautiful work of heArt! As a recovering people pleaser myself, “Confessions Of A People Pleaser” resonates to the core of my soul. Not only did I love the brilliant pearls of wisdom and takeaways throughout, I especially found the chapter reflections and journal prompts digestible, inspiring and helpful. I’ll be keeping this gem as a handy go-to in my self-help tool kit, as I plan on reading it again and again. Absolute must-read!”
— Krysta Lee
Multi-Award-Winning + Best-Selling Author, Founder + Guide at Soul School
“Stayed up late reading this one! This book is a helpful mix of Kern’s real-life stories and advice for letting go of the ‘nice girl’ people-pleasing hat many of us wear. I enjoyed the journal prompts at the end, and the layout and structure of the book were perfect. It flowed so well. Five stars! Grab a copy for yourself and your friend.
— Kelly Pramberger
Writer + Owner of The Self-Love Maven Magazine
“If you’ve found yourself at any time playing small with your dreams, dimming your light, or quieting your truth - Lisa’s relatable, witty, simple yet soul-piercing writing is the exact guidance your soul has let you to find today.”
— Jennifer Jayde
Best Selling Author + Podcast Host
Inside Confessions of a People Pleaser
This book is divided into three transformative parts:
Part 1: Understanding Your Patterns
Through personal stories backed by research, you'll see yourself reflected in my experiences and finally understand why you people-please. Spoiler: It's not because you're "just nice"—it's a learned survival pattern from childhood.
Part 2: The 7 Sabotaging Shoulds
Discover the exact thoughts that keep you trapped:
"I should be thinner"
"I should be happy all the time"
"I should conform to what others want" ...and learn how to silence them for good.
Part 3: Living Authentically
Now that you have awareness, it's time for transformation. Learn practical tools to set boundaries, speak your truth, and reclaim confidence in who you really are.
Every single chapter includes journal prompts for deeper self-reflection and lasting change
Ready to Stop Living for Everyone Else?
Start your journey from people-pleasing to authenticity. Available in paperback, hardcover, and Kindle.
Looking for More?
I've also contributed to these powerful anthologies. While Confessions of a People Pleaser is my solo work and core message, these books offer additional perspectives on fear and growth.
Fear Less
Winner of the Book Excellence Award in the category of Anthology, ‘Fear Less’ is a reminder that we are not alone in living with fears.
Fear is a universal experience woven into the fabric of our lives. It can be paralyzing, overwhelming, and seemingly insurmountable. But within these pages, we discover that fear is not our enemy—it's a catalyst for growth, a call to action, and a pathway to courage.
Through candid and heartfelt stories, we confront the myriad fears that shape our lives—from the complexities of relationships to the challenges of career, society, and self. We delve into the depths of childhood trauma, insecurities, and rejection, and emerge with newfound resilience and strength.
With 'Fear Less', we shatter the misconceptions surrounding fear and reclaim our power to step through it. We learn that fear, in its truest form, is not a weakness—it's a source of strength, resilience, and transformation.
Mama’s Gotta Grow!
Building on the success of our best-selling book, 'Mama's Gotta Work', this empowering read offers a fresh perspective on the challenges and triumphs of motherhood.
Being a mama is a journey filled with highs and lows, joys and struggles. But as we navigate the twists and turns of parenthood, there's one thing that remains constant: the need to grow. From navigating the complexities of family dynamics to balancing work, relationships, and self-care, this book delves into the uncharted territory of motherhood with honesty, humor, and compassion.
Whether you're facing the everyday challenges of raising children or navigating the uncertainties of a global pandemic, 'Mama's Gotta Grow!' is here to offer guidance, support, and encouragement. Through personal stories, practical tips, and insightful reflections, we explore the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual dimensions of growth, empowering mamas to embrace change, adapt to new realities, and thrive in every aspect of their lives.
So let's get real, start the conversation, and celebrate the incredible journey of motherhood together. Because no matter what challenges you face, remember: you've got this, mama! 'Mama's Gotta Grow!' is your companion, your confidante, and your cheerleader on the path to growth, resilience, and fulfillment.
